Principles of Success- Becoming a Person of Integrity II

2 more things that I liked in this chapter:

• You can “fake it until you make It.”: because of the Law of Reversibility, if you act as if you had a particular feeling the action will generate the feeling consistent with it.
• You can become a superior human being by consciously acting exactly as the kind of person that you would most like to become.

Principles of Success- Becoming a Person of Integrity I

The Following is a Quote from the book:

"Napoleon Hill, in his book, The Master Key to Riches, tells about how he created an imaginary board of personal advisors made up of great figures of history. He chose people like Napoleon, Lincoln, Jesus, and Alexander the Great. Whenever he had to make a decision, he would relax deeply and then imagine that the members of his advisory council were sitting at a large table in front of him. He would then ask them what he should do to deal effectively with a particular situation. In time, they would begin to give him answers, observations, and insights that helped him to see more clearly and act more effectively."

I think that this is not a very helpful method, because WE WILL THINK, how would they react. and since there's an intervention from us, we will project our impression on them. and will put our finger print in the decision made

Principles of Success- Becoming a Person of Integrity

While reading this chapter of the book, I found the following Question:

"What are your five most important values in life?"

I kept thinking for few minutes and these were the things that popped up into my mind; for some values I found that they were more expressive in Arabic, so I wrote them in Arabic

1. AL-Sedk: I don't just mean saying the truth, but I mean being true in your feelings, in your love, in your will and everything
2. Al-7ob: Love, To love everyone(who deserves), and everything around you and to have peace with yourself and love it(not too much), only to the extent you can live with. Love your country, Love your Work, and Love the atmosphere in which you are living
3. Being there for those who needs you and expects you beside them
4. Tomo7: Always work on improving everything, your relation with people around you, your career, your shape ;), relation with God, knowing to sum it up, hope and work for increasing every tiny good thing in you or you want to achieve, and get rid and move away everything you hate about yourself or your living
5. Al Dema3' el Kbeera: Give excuses to others, as long as you are sure of other people's feelings towards you, then never suspect any action they do , if it appears to be bad to u, listen to them and forgive them, never lose a life time's love because of a misunderstanding that you could have passed.Always look to the big picture, and remember the long history, and ignore the tiny details, take people as they are, when they do something that upsets you, remeber that they are not devils, do not remember all their bad actions, remember their good ones as well, remember when thet stood by you, remember that they bared your bad actions as well

Please, Please, Please, anyone who reads this post, write me your top 5

values, if u have more than 5 write as much as u feel

Just to Complete what I've Started

From a long time, (actually not very long), I was planning to begin writing upon things that I agree or disagree with in an E-book that I was reading then that was entitled; Principles of Success.

And in hope of finishing what I've started I will resume my work in it

The Hell of taking a decision...

Although I hate hesitation very much, and I don't like those hesitated people, I have the sickness oh hesitation when it comes to big decisions, or at least those that I see them big at the time of taking the decision.

But what makes a decision big? that is the question. I know that in some cases it's easy to make a U turn and change your path, but even in this case it will not be a very easy decision. I always believed that the best decision is that that can be changed easy in sense that it's flexible and doesn't have great impacts.

In some cases we say what if the decision I made was not correct? It's not a big deal I can then leave what I have choosed and return to the other alternative, but the problem is that leaving a chosen way is not always easy and the other alternative(s) is/ are not always available and waiting for u to know that they were the best for u.

I've just seen a phrase today that I feeled very much; "Life is the art of drawing.. Without an eraser. So.. be careful what u draw".
But what I think is that although we don't have an eraser but we can make the line we made wrongly a stem for a new flower.
And I comfort myself by saying that it's fate more or less, as the poet said "Kotebat 3allyna 7'ottan f mashaynaha" or "It's steps that was wrote for us so we stepped them". But then I reply to myself that this doesn't mean that we don't have to think, but we should do our best in trying to find the best choice and make the optimum decision, but we shouldn't stress ourselves if we really did our best to investigate in the correctness of the decisions we are to make, because we are human, and human may make mistakes and that's normal and we shouldn't repent as long as we did our best in thinking.
But my problem is that period of thinking in which I try to do my best :)))
And another sound inside me that is the source of my worry, when I try to comfort myselfy, it comes up and ruins all comfort: "What if u made ur life a series of wrong decisions?". A very pessimistic sound. isn't it?

I am very confused, tired and thus very sad :(((

Touched me....

"What do you do when the only one that can make you stop crying, is the person who made you cry? "

That was a Quote that I found at
http://am-free.blogspot.com/ in a post called"Quotes Wise Quotes " and was really very touched by

Great Expectations

I am not going to criticize Dicken's Novel.

But I am going to talk about the High Expectations that I had for some people around me. How I thought what I were to them and then was faced by the painful truth.

Is it my fault that I expect people to act the same way I feel towards them, even though I may not be showing these feelings.

I got tired from my "Great Expectations", I always expect relations to be very deep, I always expect love to be mutual, and since I love with all that I have, I expect the highest degrees of love and care which I rarely find. But thank God that I've it after all, God saves these caring people for me.

I feel tired, and I feel a very deep pain inside. Even I am wrong I know that I can't change as it's a chronic disease that I've been suffering from through out my life. I hardly find the love in the way I feel it towards the others.

Even my crush, I expected a lot and lived in my dreams which have no single root to live with or stand on. I know that's not anybody's fault but mine.

I wish I am cured from my disease,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, pray for me

16/06/2006

A Surprise Birthday Party
Last Friday, which was 16/06/2006, one of my friends arranged with my sister that they are going to make me a surprise birthday party. I knew my sister was planning to do something like this but I lied on her and told her that would not make me happy and that she will make me upset instead of happy, I thought that I've convinced her.

My friend called for an outing in one of the places that we were used to going when we were still at school, or I can say that there was the only place permitted to us then. and she said that she missed this place a lot, me too was very happy with the idea and with the company.

My sister than asked me "Would u be annoyed if me, H and R joined u in the outing?" and I replied that I would be happy but please don't try to celebrate my birhday, and she said Ok.

To my astonishment my friend who was missing our Outings in the "X" place, suggested another one, I was very astonished but I said it's normal "Those are my friends"

On reaching the place we settled to I found two of my faculty friends entering the Same place. I asked them did S told u that we are coming here they smiled and didn't reply.
when I went Upstairs I found Helium Birthday Baloons, other friends, I was very surprised, all of this was arranged, and 4 days earlier, I never suspected so, all I was suspicious of that my sister may come and try to celebrate my birthday and they (my friends) don't know anything.

As my special and dear friend told me; I kept my mouth opened for about half an hour trying to understand what was happening.

It was really a very special day, very special and early birthday (20/06 shifted to 16/06) and also my other friend to whom also that Birthday was done was shifted for a complete week (23/06 shifted to 16/06). It was a very friendly company, which I stayed being with very much.

As we were in Ceramic cafe, I wasn't planning to Color anything, but I said that I must have a souvenir from that day. and I wrote all the attendees names on it.

A very special thing on that day also was the Candle of the Birthday cake, it was a flower that opens (seeing it is much more beautiful than my description).

A very special thanks to all those who were there, and those who tried to make me and my friend (H/ or Moon) happy.
U really made it just as perfect as it could be.
My Friends who really made me happy by their attendance (Mandarina, Rana, Tooty, my sister Amani, Reno, Hobaz, Moon"The other Birthday Queen", Hussien, Shaltoot, Kunoichi, Shemooo, Rain& Ahmad, Shedeed, and my very special friend and the head of the organizing comitee"Zee alien" )

Principles of Success- A Balanced Life

• “Only when your values and your activities are congruent do you feel happy and at peace with yourself”--- A saying that I am totally agreeing with

• “The formula revolves around a concept of time management, or what you might want to call life management.”---It may have been in my mind, but the image became very clear; that with managing the time we are not utilizing our hours in an efficient way just to meet a deadline of something or to be able to do all or most of the things we wish to do, but day by day it will add up our whole life, after X year of managing our hours, weeks, months and years we will have a life that if full of many achievements not necessary achievements like winning the Nobel Prize, or being a minister or whatever people consider it a standard of success, but at least we will have been doing all the things we thought and believed they were important and put them on the highest priority and choose them from among many things to do. These achievements may be just from painting a set of tableaux that were never been to an exhibition or even seen by a great painter who stated that these paintings have some value, even if they are nothing but just a way to give their painter some joy and a way to express himself even to himself. I think that a woman or a man who well managed their life if they didn’t get the fame and didn’t pass the success standards that people have set at least they will die happy as they spent their time which is their lives in something they enjoyed doing if it was hard.

• “The setting of posteriorities is often overlooked.” This was also one another point that I benefited from reading this book, as I always when the idea of managing my time comes to mind the first thing that jumps to my mind is getting a piece of paper and begin writing the things that I wish to do whether are they are a job that I have to finish or an activity that I like very much and in a bad need for it to bring joy to myself and then begin giving priorities to each and scheduling the time in which I am supposed to do these things in. But after reading the above quoted sentence I’ve discovered that I would be able to do more things that I like and find some more free hours in my day, if I observed my daily routine and on this same piece of paper I began to write the unimportant things that I do that are of no value and they are taking my time just as a kind of habit, and then stop wasting my time on them and put in that free time things that are more important or that make me more happy doing them.

• “Most people are so busy rushing back and forth that they seldom take the time to think seriously about who they are and why they are doing what they are doing”

• “To be successful at your job, you must work fast and efficiently and nonstop all the time you are on the payroll”. I believe that this is what a successful machine would likely be supposed to do. But Humans MUST have breaks to perform better, also they must socialize with people around them, colleagues, managers or subordinates, or else they will not be happy and that would affect negatively on their work. Employees are humans who have emotions that is not an On/Off switch they switch it off when they come to work and back on when they finish, they must have mutual sympathy and support with their mates. On the other hand when they are capable of giving, they might be over giving, even their 1 hour of work may be productive in multiple of times compared with Machine-Like Humans who work their full time and nonstop. But I am sure not saying that we are coming work just to have friends and socialize and so, but all what I say is that we must respect our Human Nature.

• “When parents don’t spend a lot of time with their children individually, they send a message to their children that they are not very valuable or important”. I believe that this type of messages are not only send to children from their parents, but are sent to any of the parties of a relationship being Parent-Child, Friendship, Manager-Subordinate, Love or whatever, I believe that relationships must be maintained by giving them enough time to breath, this breath is that the one feels the care of the other, (s)he has given me a time from their precious lives, made me the first priority than any other thing they could have been doing on these moments they are sharing with me. Ignoring is a very bad feeling one feels even if the other character didn’t intend it when they lack the time to sit with each others and speak, as words are not only exchanged in a conversation, but I feel it like a wave is coming and going between the 2 spirits which is very healthy to the relation.

Principles of Success

Once (from about a month) I’ve been talking with one of my friends telling her that I am very bored and I want to begin doing some new activity that I might find my self in and I discovered that in the past few days I became interested in criticizing the films and everything I watch in the TV, and then the day before yesterday (09/05/2006) I was telling her that that I began reading a book that I am nearly against most of the points of views of the writer, and she told me that it would be fine to take this book as a start to criticize the thoughts in it that I am against, and thus I will be discovering the thoughts that I am with.

And as I was very thirst to begin some writing activity, I was very enthusiastic about it and began the job from today Thursday (11/05/2006) although it was a very full day and I am very tired as it’s already 11:40 PM, but anyway I will Start, I hope I can do it well and complete the job :)


Chapters of the Book
A Balanced Life
Becoming A Person Of Integrity
Cultivating Your Self-Esteem
Empowering Others
Everyone’s A Sales Person
Gaining Visibility
Generating Energy
Leading & Motivating
Make Every Minute Count
Making The Most Of Change
Managing Your Time
Setting Priorities
The Power Of Charisma
The Power Of Positive Self Talk

Every Post ISA I will be talking on a chapter

Love

Love is a very effective motivator...

Quotes that I like

• Always hold your head up, but be careful to keep your nose at a friendly level
• الحياة التي لا يعاد النظر فيها لا تستحق أن تعاش أفلاطون
• ينبغي أن نضع نصب أعينينا أن مأساة الحياة لا تكمن في عدم بلوغ الهدف بل في عدم وجود هدف نسعى إلى بلوغه فليست الفاجعة في أن نموت دون أن نحقق بعضاَ من أحلامنا بل أن نفتقر إلى الأحلام .
• Dont cry because its over, smile because it happened.
• To meet and to part is way of life. To part and to meet again is hope of life.
• The purpose of life is to live a life of purpose.
• Love is like standing in wet cement , the longer you stay the harder to leave and u can never leave without leaving your marks behind.
• Just because somebody doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.
• The heart is on the left but always right.
• I love walking in the rain cause then no one knows im crying.
• The virtue of true love is not finding the perfect person, but loving the imperfect person perfectly.
• Destiny decides who you meet in life but its only your heart that can decide who gets to stay in your life.
• False friends are like our shadow, keeping close to us while we walk in the *sunshine,* but leaving us when we cross into the *shade.*
• “Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.” --- Buddha quotes (Hindu Prince Gautama Siddharta, the founder of Buddhism, 563-483 B.C.)
• I try to talk to you, but I don't know what to say. I am afraid you don't want me to say anything. So I don't. But inside of me there are words waiting to come out.And tell you how I feel-like how I miss you. And how I love you despite my broken heart.And how I need you in my life. And especially how much I want you.But those words may forver stay in my heart-locked inside.Sometimes I wonder if there are words locked inside you too... but I'll never know.
• All our lives we search for someone who makes us complete. We choose partners and change partners. We dance the song of heartbreak and hope all the while,wondering if somewhere,somehow there is someone searching for us